Self Development idea (7) - The Art of Letting Go

A great spiritual teacher had told us that:-

"Holding on to anger is like grasping
a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at
someone else; you are the one who gets burned."



So, if someone can not think that he can love his enemy... At least think in terms of "Forgive and Let Go". Let go the hot coal in the hand.

Or we can look at the matter from another perspective:
That's Dr. Daniel Amen's 18/40/60 Rule

At 18 years old - You worry about what everybody is thinking about you.
At 40 years old - You don't give a damn what anybody is thinks of you.
At 60 years old - You realize nobody was thinking about you at all.

Any Surprise? Since other people spend most of their time worry about their own "busy-ness", and not spending time thinking about you. Then what is the point of wasting any time to hate others which would be harmful to your own health?
So, the logical answer is still to "Forgive and Let Go". :-)


And, there are some simple exercises to experience the art of letting go:

Exercise 1:

Step 1. Take a piece of paper and scrunch it up to become a small paper ball.

Step 2. Use the stronger hand to grasp on the paper ball. Take a deep breath and then start to apply force to squeeze it as hard as possible... Hold the breath.... Squeeze harder... Continue to hold the breath, and continue to apply more force to squeeze harder.... continue to do so, until...

Step 3. Until that one can not take it any more. Then, release the ball, with the hand face down, and let it drop... and start to have normal breathing.

Step 4. Feel the sensation of "letting go" in your hand. Doesn't it feel good?



Exercise 2: Sedona Method.

Step 1. The first step is to identify the feeling that one wants to let go.

Step 2. Then ask oneself the following three questions:

Q1. Could I let it go?
Q2. Would I let it go?
Q3. When?

Yes. These steps and questions look very simple. And if one seriously asking the questions and think carefully. One will find that the choice lay within himself. The answers would then be: Yes, Yes, and Now.






As scientists have estimated that the average human has 60,000 thoughts a day. This may be sound interesting as human mind do not stop imagining/thinking all day long.
And, something more interesting is that, according to Dr. Deepak Chopra, 90% of the thoughts you have today are the one you had yesterday!

Therefore, it is a very Important task for every individual to make sure that his dominant thoughts are of good intention and a happy one, or else, like it or not, it will has HIGH chances to come back tomorrow.


"Every event that baffles you today had its seed
in an intention yesterday."
- Deepak Chopra



"Never let yesterday use up too much of today."
Will Rogers: Humorist


"Let go of the past and the past will let go of you."
- unknown

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Added on 14 Dec 2012 - A relevant Picture found in facebook:


Happiness is a state-of-mind. 
It is a personal choice.
It is an in-side job! 




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